In China, too many parents raise their children into people who have lost themselves: they focus almost entirely on grades, school, skills, and future jobs, but overlook a more fundamental issue: whether the child can reach that day with a healthy mind and a complete personality. In an era of rapid development and uncertainty, most people actually lack the ability to plan a definite "successful" future for their children, but they can safeguard the most basic foundational abilities: a stable mind, self-acceptance, and resilience to withstand pressure and setbacks without easily collapsing. Compared to the so-called employment pressure, what is more worth warning about is that psychological problems are becoming more common and prevalent. This is not an individual issue, but the result of overlapping intergenerational growth environments. Therefore, what a family should truly "focus on" is not blindly competing inwardly, but rather allowing the child to be understood and supported during growth, building a sense of self-worth and emotional resilience, so that they do not break down during adolescence, and even if they face temporary setbacks in the future, they won't be easily overwhelmed or give up on themselves. They won't easily go astray or abandon themselves, nor lose the ability to love themselves and others. Ultimately, the so-called "successful cultivation" is not primarily about pushing them toward a certain outcome, but ensuring that they can stand firm and survive through storms, because only by surviving can they live well.